Category: sexuality

The challenge of the sex drive

Hunger, thirst, coldness, and tiredness: sensations that drive a lifeform to act, to secure something it needs for survival–food, water, heat, rest. We share them with lower animals. We experience them as sensations, and while we are not free of the requirements they point to, we have some ability to resist their force on us.

How about the sex drive? It can be placed in that category too. It’s another basic, lizard-brain life-sustaining process. Some call it a ‘need’. But it’s a strange one. Its goal, getting a lifeform to mate with another of its species, isn’t necessary for individual survival. But it is for group survival.

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On ‘anti-slut defence’ tactics, ‘slut-shaming’, and their critics

ASD, or anti-slut defence is a term used in the PUA or Red Pill space. It refers to behavioural and psychological tendencies of women to resist seduction by men they really want to have sex with, in order to maintain their non-slutty reputation and self-image.

An ASD is a method used by a girl to abstain herself from responsibility during a situation where there is a likelihood of sex/intimacy.


PUA discussion of ASD centres around methods to overcome it. They discuss methods of influencing the woman’s psychological state, heightening her sexual desire, and making her feel comfortable and safe from condemnatory judgement. The aim is to prevent ASD obstructions, or manage them when they arise.

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Arousal as intoxication, and the infinite regress of reciprocal meta-desire; diabolical theorems

It’s time to write this shit down. I have not totally clarified these thoughts in my mind, and I doubt that I can communicate them in an optimal manner here and now, but I’ll begin my attempt anyway.

Before I begin: a warning. If you read and understand this theorem, you may never want to be involved in a sexual/romantic relationship ever (again). If the reasoning holds up, then the conclusion is that sex or romantic relationships are inherently anti-rational, unavoidably non-consensual (and therefore unethical).

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“Refuse to date men who watch porn”

Crossposted from Your Brain Rebalanced:

This is a slogan being promoted by feminists. I want to ask the dudes here: what do you think about this?

Here’s some graffiti/street art spreading this meme, from Untameable Shrews:

Here they use the #PornKillsLove hashtag, a slogan used by Fight the New Drug, a Mormon-founded but non-religious anti-porn advocacy and education organisation. You’ve probably heard of it.

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