Category: PUA

On ‘anti-slut defence’ tactics, ‘slut-shaming’, and their critics

ASD, or anti-slut defence is a term used in the PUA or Red Pill space. It refers to behavioural and psychological tendencies of women to resist seduction by men they really want to have sex with, in order to maintain their non-slutty reputation and self-image.

An ASD is a method used by a girl to abstain herself from responsibility during a situation where there is a likelihood of sex/intimacy.

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PUA discussion of ASD centres around methods to overcome it. They discuss methods of influencing the woman’s psychological state, heightening her sexual desire, and making her feel comfortable and safe from condemnatory judgement. The aim is to prevent ASD obstructions, or manage them when they arise.

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Terrible dating advice as a self-propagating systems

Everyone should be generally quite sceptical of dating advice and pretty much mostly go by their own instincts.

Why? Dating advice gets communicated, then re-circulated, regardless of its efficacy. It spreads because it makes the spreaders feel good. There’s no strong evolutionary pressure to kill off bad advice. In fact, the opposite is true: bad advice makes for a stronger memes. Because bad advice memes keep their hosts failing at the dating game, enabling them to put more energy into the dating-advice-spreading game.

Put some trust in words of demonstrably wiser and superior people. Otherwise trust and develop your own instincts.

Mind tricks

The upshot of this post is: quick seduction tricks, ‘hacks’, or tricks are praxeologically unsustainable. They aren’t worthwhile. Let’s build real value, virtue, and character instead.

A man makes a discovery in his dating life. He observes that performing a certain novel action seems unexpectedly attractive to women. He tells his friends, and they copy his unintuitive technique, and find it effective. The information spreads out across the wider peer group, slowly…

Or quickly. Especially if one of the guys is a professional in the dating or seduction advice field. Or someone with enough followers on Twitter.

This new knowledge changes behaviour. It can’t remain an effective technique forever. Because the context has changed. The initial context was one in which this weird new trick was new. It was a novel humourous chat-up line, or reasonable-sounding excuse for two strangers to touch, or an action that expresses a mysterious demeanour.

Now, every other dude knows it. The girls have seen it a dozen times, in many tiresome re-enactments. If it was a joke, it’s not funny any more. If it was a playful suggestive invitation, repetition has killed whatever nuance it had. Now it’s understood as a vulgar proposition.

So to be effective with pick-up mind tricks, you’ll need to be ahead of the curve. You need to be informed of new techniques quickly. Better subscribe to the masters on YouTube or wherever, and listen to all the podcasts.

But the lightspeed dissemination of techniques over the ‘net is precisely what’s accelerating the shortening of their useful lifespan.

It’s more than just individual techniques that are harmed. As PUA-like practitioners increase in number, whole classes of techniques are diminished. It’s not just that some particular jokes get old. Women getting hit on learn that joke-telling is a much weaker indicator that a guy is genuinely funny. They learn that a situational display that seems to convey social courage doesn’t really give hard evidence that the man has genuine confidence.

The genuinely funny guy has to work a bit harder to impress the lady. But that’s fine, he’s up to the challenge. Same with the man of genuine confidence.

So we’d better forget the tricks. Don’t be taken in by the shortcut merchants. Accept the uncomfortable fact that real hard work is needed. Genuine value-building oriented advice is out there.

Roosh, often mistaken for a PUA, said There Is No Shortcut To Getting Laid.

But is there even a little but of value in tricks? Maybe. As a stepping stone into a conversation? As a knowingly corny joke? Seems this is the point where theory stops and practice begins.