Hunger, thirst, coldness, and tiredness: sensations that drive a lifeform to act, to secure something it needs for survival–food, water, heat, rest. We share them with lower animals. We experience them as sensations, and while we are not free of the requirements they point to, we have some ability to resist their force on us.
How about the sex drive? It can be placed in that category too. It’s another basic, lizard-brain life-sustaining process. Some call it a ‘need’. But it’s a strange one. Its goal, getting a lifeform to mate with another of its species, isn’t necessary for individual survival. But it is for group survival.
Continue reading “The challenge of the sex drive”
My previous post was a bit all over the place. This one will be more focused. Sticking to a single topic.
Anyway. I’m still a virgin and casual sex is not really an option.
Continue reading “Casual sex. Why not?”
ASD, or anti-slut defence is a term used in the PUA or Red Pill space. It refers to behavioural and psychological tendencies of women to resist seduction by men they really want to have sex with, in order to maintain their non-slutty reputation and self-image.
An ASD is a method used by a girl to abstain herself from responsibility during a situation where there is a likelihood of sex/intimacy.
PUA discussion of ASD centres around methods to overcome it. They discuss methods of influencing the woman’s psychological state, heightening her sexual desire, and making her feel comfortable and safe from condemnatory judgement. The aim is to prevent ASD obstructions, or manage them when they arise.
Continue reading “On ‘anti-slut defence’ tactics, ‘slut-shaming’, and their critics”
I responded to a thread on The Red Pill subreddit.
Does a sex abundant lifestyle, being a player an alpha male actually lead to happiness?
Continue reading “Sex and happiness”
Everyone should be generally quite sceptical of dating advice and pretty much mostly go by their own instincts.
Why? Dating advice gets communicated, then re-circulated, regardless of its efficacy. It spreads because it makes the spreaders feel good. There’s no strong evolutionary pressure to kill off bad advice. In fact, the opposite is true: bad advice makes for a stronger memes. Because bad advice memes keep their hosts failing at the dating game, enabling them to put more energy into the dating-advice-spreading game.
Put some trust in words of demonstrably wiser and superior people. Otherwise trust and develop your own instincts.
It’s time to write this shit down. I have not totally clarified these thoughts in my mind, and I doubt that I can communicate them in an optimal manner here and now, but I’ll begin my attempt anyway.
Before I begin: a warning. If you read and understand this theorem, you may never want to be involved in a sexual/romantic relationship ever (again). If the reasoning holds up, then the conclusion is that sex or romantic relationships are inherently anti-rational, unavoidably non-consensual (and therefore unethical).
Continue reading “Arousal as intoxication, and the infinite regress of reciprocal meta-desire; diabolical theorems”