Month: November 2016

4 reasons why masculinity and gender is interesting

Or, why I’m obsessed with sex.

1. I have a sex drive, which I experience with (what seems like) ordinary intensity. I like feminine women. Turns out, they like masculine men. More or less. So I have skin in the game, so to speak.

2. This is a lively political battleground! Feminism, men’s rights activism, patriarchy, gynocentrism. Civil rights, human rights, legal issues, personal freedom, left and right. My political tendencies are libertarian and slightly-right-centrist.

3. It’s a lively philosophical battleground. (All these points are interconnected too.) So, masculinity and femininity. What are we even talking about, metaphysically? Are they primaeval forces of nature, evolved biological attributes, or ideological social constructs? (The answer: all of the above.)

4. Men and women are different. Propaganda denying this obvious fact is spouted about frequently, and considered meritorious in some circles. The meta-level debate is super interesting to study. We’re talking, the corruption of science, the subversion of the academy, etc. Interesting, and dangerous!

I am a masculinist: I think masculinity is something real, and a good thing.

Gifting: psychosexual dynamics of a new monetisation angle for dating services

For all those in the dating app industry, have this one for free.

I present an idea whose time has come.

OKCupid, Tinder, Bumble, etc. have a freemium model. They are free to use. You can pay for extra premium features.

Here’s my genius idea: gift functionality. Paying for the premium functionality, not for oneself, but to pass on to someone else in the userbase, for anyone who wants to extend a kind gesture and help a bro/sis out.

Now, what would the consequences be?

Beta schmucks trying to use gifting as a method of getting girls’ attention. It’s a terrible idea for a tactic. And it’ll totally get used. So an increased number of girls on the app will be running in premium mode.

The specific consequences of that depend on the particular features the individual apps/sites offer.

Back to the wretched betas.

And I hope it’s understood that I’m not bashing these poor fellows in the spirit of cruelty. I want to help them. Really, when I speak of them, I mean us. I’m no paragon of masculinity, nor a seduction expert. I’m still on the road to wizardry. I want us to help each other. What I’m doing is trying to raise awareness…

Anyway. The wimpy, naive betas.

Blackhearted, manipulative witches will exploit their soft, weak hearts and tempt them into gift-giving, with false promises of reciprocal affection.

In this age of megacuckoldry, they could effectively spin their enticements as an invitation to join them in a polyamorous situation. This way, there’s no need to hide the fact that the point of them receiving the gift is to make it easier to meet other dudes.

The strategic choice will be to offer a long distance  fake polyamorous relationship. Maximise safety by keeping a maximal distance between the witch and the exploited.

So. That’ll happen. Some of the victims will wise up, after a while. Some will need an intervention, some convincing, some confrontation. Some will keep pissing away their cash. Oh well.

Can I really begrudge these (still hypothetical) witches? They’re enterprising! And their interactions with their victims might wake some of them up, help them learn a useful lesson about how the world works, and dislodge some stupid ideas they have about the supposedly morally superior sex.

Premium date app plans will be another gift that pornstars and webcam performers receive from their fans. At least that’s a more honest sort of transaction. A gift from a fan in exchange for a little attention, no false promises of a ‘real’ relationship. You could be the one who helps your favourite camslut to get some really good dick, and she might tell you about it!

But this isn’t the sort of stuff that these dating app companies really want to be associated with…

Do these downsides outweigh the potential increased revenue? Does anyone actually do this already? Like, sites aimed at the promiscuous, fetishists, and so on? Haven’t looked into it yet.

Go on, app-makers, you know it makes sense. Give us an option to send the gift anonymously, too.

I’ll probably fucking use it myself. Fuck.

 

 

Ask before you kiss?

From Everyday Feminism:

Ask before you kiss someone. (Or touch them, or dance with them, or hug them.)

Hm. We’ve heard this suggestion. We’ve also heard the opposite. Both expressed with apparent sincerity. Which side has the better reasons?

First, does there need to be a universal answer? Different folks are going to have different preferences. If someone has expressed their individual preference then it seems sensible to go with that.

We don’t usually have this personalised information in advance. Putting this on one’s dating site profile isn’t a custom (yet). So for now, we’ll have to go by generalised advice.

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